A lot of the stuff in your list happens to married people too. And there are people who have sex without marriage who never have those problems. I think the difference is safe sex, and that is not necessarily synonymous with marriage.
cognizant dissident
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I got to thinking about this today.
by MrFreeze ini was taking a long, long car ride today and of course all that time you get to thinking.
i thought about this.
when it comes to jw's dating, they always have to have a chaperone there.
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No Link Found Between Vaccine Mercury and Autism
by leavingwt insome red meat for the anti-science crowd.
no link found between vaccine mercury and autisma new government study adds to the evidence that thimerosal, a mercury-based preservative until recently found in many vaccines, does not increase children's risk of autism.. it shows kids who had been exposed as babies to high levels of the preservative -- through vaccines they received or their mothers received while pregnant -- were no more likely to develop autism, including two distinct subtypes of the condition.. .
"this study should reassure parents about following the recommended immunization schedule," said dr. frank destefano, director of the immunization safety office at the centers for disease control and prevention (cdc) in atlanta, and the study's senior author.. .
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cognizant dissident
Fragile X is not a "made up" condition. It can be detected on the chromosomes with DNA testing. As medical knowledge and testing become more advanced, doctors are able to diagnose many more conditions, that in the past when undiagnosed, or misdiagnosed. There are many mildly autistic children that probably fell through the cracks in centuries past, and were just labelled slow, retarded, or weird. It was also first considered a psychological condition and blamed upon the mother being cold and unloving. Medicine has come a long way in the last 50 years.
An analogy can be made to the explosion of earthquakes in recent years. This is not because there is an actual increase in earthquakes. It is because the number of earthquake detectors around the world has risen from around 300 - 3000. They are also much more sensitive and can detect small earthquakes.
Medical testing and diagnostic equipment is the same. Because statistics can be misrepresented or manipulated, especially to those who do not know the subject or understand statistical analysis, scientific studies must go through peer review, before they can be published in medical or scientific journals. Unfortunately, the same is not true of statistics published and conclusions drawn in the popular media.
The media is not a credible source of information. They are ratings whores.
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What's the best cover version of a song you've ever heard?
by VampireDCLXV inthe title pretty much says it all.. it's true that there are many classics that simply can't be topped but it doesn't stop people from trying anyway.
and what do ya know; occasionally someone does succeed.
here i will post at least one notable example.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o9gf_sofbm&p=301f39587863d18d&playnext=1&index=3.
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cognizant dissident
Ooops, I misspoke, Rodney Crowell wrote this song and Emmy Lou Harris first released it. Here's one of him singing it. I think he's a better songwriter than performer because its pretty lackluster.
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What's the best cover version of a song you've ever heard?
by VampireDCLXV inthe title pretty much says it all.. it's true that there are many classics that simply can't be topped but it doesn't stop people from trying anyway.
and what do ya know; occasionally someone does succeed.
here i will post at least one notable example.... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-o9gf_sofbm&p=301f39587863d18d&playnext=1&index=3.
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Til I Gain Control Again
I'm a big fan of Willie Nelson and Blue Rodeo, so I have no bias, but I think the Blue Rodeo version is better.
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Heartsick
by EmptyInside ini'm sorry, it seems like i only post when i'm down.
so, most here probably think i'm depressed all the time,which isn't true.. but, i had a long distance romance, and now he doesn't even respond to my e-mails.
we have been talking for almost two years now.
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I had the same thing happen to me twice with men who contacted me on this forum. Talked for a year and a half with the first one and met the second one a number of times and talked on the phone daily (long distance). Then they just stopped writing and talking and phoning with no explanation. I was very hurt too, especially with the second one who claimed to love me and want to be with me forever.
I discussed this with a friend of mine who is a relationship counselor and he told me that internet relationships are basically fantasy. They feel real and intimate, but they aren't intimate and hence not sustainable unless both agree to take the next step and make them flesh and blood relationships.
If you think about how we as humans know anything, for real, it is through our senses, not through words on a page. That is just stories people tell about themselves, it is not the people themselves. We see a person and we are attracted to how they look. We hear a person and we are attracted to how they sound. We shake their hands or hug them and enjoy the feeling of touch. We get close enough to smell them and are attracted or repulsed. Much is chemistry. Our other sense is "taste" and this is reserved for the most intimate sexual knowing of another person, (kissing, oral sex).
Talking on the phone does allow you to hear the other's voice, so is more intimate than the internet, but still it is only one out of five ways of being intimate and probably the least so. The internet provides psuedo-intimacy. It is the equivalent of reading a book, maybe with a few pictures for illustrations and thinking we "know" the author or have a relationship with them.
I've come to realize that the first relationship had no where to go, unless we were to meet in person. We had said everything we had to say to each other and were down to talking about the mundane day to day stuff that married people do, but without any of the benefits of such a close relationship to sustain it. This would require huge changes in our lives neither of us were prepared for. Hence, a fantasy that had run its course.
The second relationship was more serious. We met each other right away, talked on the phone daily, made plans to mesh our lives. But even all of that was mostly fantasy. When I became actually divorced, and actually free to put the plans into the action, the other person became scared to change their life and disappeared off line, off text, and off telephone. The fantasy had suddenly become very real and very immediate and unsustainable once again.
This is the danger inherent in internet relationships and in telephone relationships. Some people are looking to keep a safe distance and fantasy is more attractive to them the day to day reality of a "real" relationship with a flesh and blood person. The internet and the telephone allow them to maintain that distance. They can project whatever image they want of themselves and project on to you whatever they want you to be.
I've nothing against the internet for a first introduction. If you want to know how serious the person is about a relationship, ask them to meet right away. If they don't want to spend time enjoying you in person, then it's a fantasy for them.
My two cents. Live and learn.
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Do you love or hate to cook?
by VampireDCLXV injust a quick poll if you will.... i personally hate to cook.
it's not that i'm particularly bad at it, i just don't have a whole lot of patience or motivation to do it.
i suppose it has something to do with my having to live alone?
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cognizant dissident
Jeff,
It probably is missing the salt. Sage and rosemary are very strong and would change the taste of curry. Did you know you can buy sodium free potassium salts and get your flavor that way?
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Do you love or hate to cook?
by VampireDCLXV injust a quick poll if you will.... i personally hate to cook.
it's not that i'm particularly bad at it, i just don't have a whole lot of patience or motivation to do it.
i suppose it has something to do with my having to live alone?
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I love to cook (except when I'm tired, which is most of the time). Hate to do the dishes though. Can't afford to go out much though, and I hate to pay for what I know I can make just as well, or better, myself.
I'm doing Southbeach diet right now. Still, tonight I had some organic greens, with leftover, sliced steak, peppers, red onions, tomatoes, cukes, red pepper, cilantro, feta cheese and balsamic dressing. Delicious dinner for one. Took me 15 minutes to make. Including the dressing from scratch. Better steak salad than I could get in a restaurant.
I also made some cilantro, garlic, mayonnaise today, spread it on sliced turkey breast, put some red pepper, scallion, and lettuce in the middle and rolled it up. Also delicious. The secret is in the cilantro mayo. 2 or 3 of those is a tasty light lunch or snack.
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How did you choose your screenname for jw.net?
by Voices inalright, i'm curious now cause i've been wanting to know how certain people go their screennames.
now some people have their names involved with makes sense and so forth.
but i guess i'll start out.
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I think mine is obviously a word play on "cognitive dissonance" which sounds the same but means the opposite.
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Meeting topics that cover sex
by Libelle inoccassionally the mr will say that "some visitors are shocked because we will talk about sex, even with children in attendance.
" what exactly are they talking about in these meetings.
things like "don't masturbate" or things like if you position yourself like this, and your woman like this while having sex, then you're fornicating?.
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cognizant dissident
It depends if your language of love is "acts of service".
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Transfusions and Risk of Heart Attack - News Article Now Circulating in Dubbieland
by palmtree67 inhttp://www.dailymail.co.uk/health/article-1299787/they-supposed-save-lives-blood-transfusion-heart-attack.html.
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I have actually read this new medical study and it does show cardiac patients do better without blood transfusions. So the article is not bogus. Those are usually planned operations though. There are still dozens of other medical conditions that are benefited by transfusions. Blood disorders, immune system disorders, certain cancers, and the big one is bleeding out from trauma or hemorrhage.
Just because they have that one tidbit of truth in their article, doesn't mean the rest of their stuff isn't still bullshit.